Finding a Therapist is like Dating?

Introduction

Finding a therapist that is a good fit for you is a lot like dating. When dating you might feel an immediate spark on the first date. Sometimes, it takes a few dates to know for sure if you'd like the relationship to progress or not. And sometimes, you know from the very first date that that person is not a right fit for you. It's the same concept with finding a therapist. Sometimes you know on the first session that you and your therapist are the right fit and sometimes you don't. Sometimes it might take three sessions to build a connection and sometimes more or less. This article takes you through how finding a therapist is a lot like dating and what it looks like to find an ideal therapist for you.

Give it 3 Sessions to Know if your Therapist is the Right fit

It's important to give it three sessions if you aren't sure if your therapist is the right fit for you, or not. Even if you think your therapist is wonderful, there could be some things that come up in the first two sessions that make them not right for you. If there isn't a connection between you and your therapist by the third session, maybe it's time to shop around for someone else who might be more compatible fit for your needs.

There's no one type of therapist that's right for everyone.

When you're trying to find a therapist, it can feel like you're dating. You might be looking for someone with a certain personality or approach. You want someone who will understand where you are in life and what your needs are, but at the same time, they have to be able to help guide you in the right direction.

It's important not only that your therapist understands how they work with clients but also that they match up with your personality and style so that both parties feel comfortable working together as equals. It's not always easy!

It's important to do your research.

When you're looking for a therapist, it's important to do your research. You want to make sure that the person you see is going to be able to help you with whatever it is that brought you here.

It might be helpful to research what your potential therapist's specialty is and also what their approach to therapy is.

You'll have to put yourself out there and ask questions.

The next step is to do your research and ask questions. When you call your therapist's office, see if they have a free consult. Ask about their approach to therapy, their personality and how it would match with yours. If it seems like a good fit, then schedule your first session. ***If you want more information on what to expect during your first therapy session, read our previous blog.***

Once you're in session with your new therapist (or even before), be sure to ask them about billing practices--especially if they charge by the hour instead of using insurance coverage--to make sure everything is clear from the start. If there are any problems with payment down the line based on some unexpected circumstance (like losing your job), then at least now everyone knows what needs doing so there won't be any surprises later on!

Another important element is making sure both partners' personalities mesh well enough during each session: For example, someone who tends towards being introverted may not enjoy working with someone else who thrives off social interaction; likewise someone who prefers discussing things rationally might feel overwhelmed by another person whose emotions tend towards being highly charged most days."

Therapists are just people

Therapists are just people.

They're human beings with their own individual personalities and preferences, just like you and me. They can be kind, gentle, friendly and supportive; but they can also be rude or abrasive if that's how they feel in the moment. Therapists have bad days where they feel stressed out or tired, just like you do at times when life gets tough (or even when it doesn't). And sometimes therapists may not have time for you because of other clients who need their help more urgently than yours does right now - which is completely understandable! But don't worry; there will always be another therapist available who can see your needs better than anyone else ever could before.

The right therapist will be someone who knows when to listen and when to speak up.

The right therapist will be someone who knows when to listen, and when to speak up. A good therapist will ask questions that help you think about your problems from different perspectives. They can offer feedback on what they've heard, but also allow you space to reflect on the information they provide and determine whether or not it resonates with you. They'll help guide you towards making decisions that are best for yourself--even if those decisions aren't easy or popular but, they won't make decisions for you!

A good fit can help you heal faster.

You may have heard that finding a therapist is like dating, but what does that mean? When you're looking for someone to date, you want to find someone who shares your values and interests. You also want them to be kind and supportive--and someone who makes your heart beat faster when they walk into the room (or at least give you butterflies). You know what else? If adequate rapport is built between you and your therapist (aka there's a good connection), then they will be more likely to "open up" and feel comfortable talking about their problems or how they feel in general.

The same goes for finding a good fit when looking for a therapist: if adequate rapport is built between you and your therapist, then chances are higher that they can help guide you through your problems or life situation by providing suggestions on how best cope with those issues; provide suggestions on moving forward towards happiness; provide insight into making decisions which lead towards happiness rather than unhappiness; etcetera...

Conclusion

The right therapist is someone who gets your problems and knows how to help. You can find this person by asking questions, doing research and keeping an open mind. The most important thing to remember is that there are many types of therapists out there--so don't be afraid to shop around! Remember-finding a therapist is like dating!